Dating advice

Dating Advice: Confidence-Fake it before we make it?

Tyler Young,  a Seattle based coach, offers the inside scoop on dating and connecting with another person in a real way.  What happens when we aren’t super confident and entering the dating scene? Tyler offers some examples of how can we “be ourselves” and still get a date.  How can you be authentic, be vulnerable, and be yourself during a date, even when you are having a hard time (e.g.- lost job, just broke up, etc.)? Get the dating advice you need to be confident.

About our Guest

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Tyler Young

Dating Coach, certified life coach, and owner of ATTRACTOLOGY, Tyler has studied for the past 10 years how to successfully overcome any kind of social anxiety or shyness, and especially that uncomfortable feeling you get when you’re in a room full of strangers and you  have no clue what to say.  After suffering from it himself growing up, he now thrives on making personal connections, and believes that it is an inherent need as a human being.  Having traveled around the world, meeting amazing people along the way, he has developed philosophies that when put into action, will allow anyone to feel confident, witty, charismatic, and the life of the party, if that is what you aspire to be.

 

Email:  Tyler@attractology.com

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When we are single, but looking for a relationship, there are dark moments when it’s easy to feel that we will never find love.  It’s at these moments that we feel separate from a cruel world where everything seems to be made for two.  Around Valentine’s Day we are haunted by images of smiling, kissing, and adoring couples buying lingerie, jewelry, and chocolates.  Tyler Young, a Seattle dating coach, joins us on our radio program this Wednesday, February 13, from 1:00-1:30 PT to share ideas on finding love and that special someone.

In the meantime, here are a few things from energy psychology and meditation to help you find love an  feel the love on Valentine’s Day.

  • Remove the stressful feelings of separateness and loneliness.  It’s important to realize that your feelings of separateness and loneliness are just that… feelings, and something that will pass, like a rainy day.  If possible, avoid creating meaning out of these feelings and generating debilitating stories about who you are (unattractive, unworthy, etc.), or how others have wronged you.
    • Try a simple tool from energy psychology when your mind and feelings are a bit negative.  Place your palm over your forehead (frontal neurovascular points) and place the other palm over the bump at the back of your head (occipital region) and take long deep breaths.  Bring up all the negative thoughts that are making you feel bad (e.g., I’ll never find anyone; I’ll always be alone; No one will ever love me) and wallow in your thoughts and feelings.  Hold for a few minutes, until you feel relief, a sense of relaxation, a shift, or you feel more neutral.
    • Gaining awareness of your negative emotions can be a good first step to releasing them. Check out these in-depth ex
    • plorations of your negative emotions, whether they be anger, jealousy and envy, and fear.
  • Bring in your faith and love in yourself.   On a spiritual level you are never alone and at any moment you can be in communion with the whole and with your deepest self through meditation. Finding love is a matter of finding your heart. (Check out Wednesday’s show from 1:30-2:00 when we talk about the power of our heart.)  While we seek to find love outside of ourselves, the most enduring love is that which we can find within ourselves.   Here are a few meditations to try to get your mind in a more positive place.  If you are a yoga fan try this heart meditation, or bring in a sense of deep love for yourself by trying this meditation.   Either of these meditations can help shift your mindset to a more positive place.  Listen to the following in depth discussions on gratitude, compassion, faith and courage, forgiveness, and self-love and how you can bring more love into your life.

There is a theory among energy healers that removing our negative thoughts and bringing in a positive mindset increases the level at which our energy vibrates, which is inherently attractive to others.  I have found this to be the case for myself. Give it a try, and see if it works for you!

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As an Asian-American with 25 years in Corporate America AND an spiritual explorer, CJ is a bridge between science and spirit. Western and Eastern, as well as logical and intuitive, she seeks out ideas from seemingly opposite sides of an issue to help her audience plug into what’s unfolding on a global scale. From energy healers to surgeons, psychics to psychologists, and vegans to ranchers, her diverse guests reflect her commitment to engage, challenge, entertain and enlighten in every show.