Letting Go of Pain and Blame

CJ Liu interviews Guy Finley about his bestselling book “The Secret of Letting Go.” If you want more about Letting Go after reading this article, make sure to go to Guy’s website and attend his free weekly sessions.

Part 1: Changing Your Relationship to Pain

Guy explains that COVID and other crises in life show us that we are mutually dependent. These natural events offer a creative process and we are given the opportunity to let go of our pain so that it can complete it’s natural cycle and be reclaimed. During this challenging time, it’s about being conscious and find our pain points. We can ask ourselves “what am I typing to escape?” It’s our choice how we will respond to life, which is giving us an opportunity to awaken. Will we learn or reject the gift we are given? While it’s much easier to blame or judge ourselves and others and walk away from our responsibilities, we are now being asked to heal.

Part 2: Loss of Job and Financial Stability

Guy explains the importance of going inside yourself and how COVID-19 has created a time to pause. Then, CJ asks Guy how he would advise those who are dealing with financial distress such as loss of job or inability to pay rent. Guy offers 3 steps to get to answers.

1. The first is to find that peaceful place within yourself that knows that everything will be okay. It’s changing our state of consciousness. Guys explains that “we recognize that fear cannot free us from pain, fear cannot free us from fear, or worry cannot free us from worry”. Each of us much find a way to get disentangled from the ecosystem that creates this state of consciousness.
2. Next, do what is in your power and refuse to do what is not. It’s important to be present during these times. Our mind projects into the future (30 days out) and narrows the field of possibility to only a few options. It’s about not moving into fight or flight. You can still do what’s needed and within your power, such as filing for unemployment. However, beware of creating stories of what may happen.
3. Lastly, be aware of the fear, worry, anger, anxiety – but not let it tell you what to do. It’s remembering that we are part of the Divine and to say to yourself, “I’m given everything I need”.

Part 3: Awakening Through Hardship

We are in a period where we are being given a global teaching. Guy’s wisdom is that we go to the part of consciousness that knows that everything will be okay. While it may not seem like it, these moments are here for us to awaken and reconcile and to help us focus on what’s happening in the moment. Often the last attachment we must let go of is our attachment to suffering. Guy advises that at any moment we don’t want that we say, “Thank you, I didn’t know that about myself.”

Part 4: Pain is the Liberation of the Soul

How do you change your relationship to pain? How you can see deeply into pain and let it unfold without attaching blame? If you are part of the Divine, then pain is part of the Divine pain. Let field of awareness show the pain can come in and out and leave. Don’t get attached. The experience will explain itself. Pain that is resisted is THE PAIN that is being restricted. Suffering will move from being abusive versus suffering being useful and perfect. Suffering is liberation of the soul.

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